Sunday, May 22, 2011

Enjoying my Vacation

My husband and I are enjoying a week on the beach at Hilton Head, SC. It is one of our favorite places on this earth. It is so peaceful, cultivated and just pretty. Spanish moss and moon beams, paradise. Just before I left I called my daughter's dad and asked about her. I have not done this in about 6 months. He told me that she was doing "great". I asked him why, if she is doing so great, can't even call her mother on Mother's Day or any other occasion for 3 years now. He said that "we", her and I, are having a problem which he cannot solve for me. It really made me mad and upset for him to say this. He sounded so patronizing. Maybe I just took it that way, I am not sure. I wanted to scream into the phone: I don't have a problem, I love our daughter. Anyway, I know better than to inquiry about her. It just brings heartache. BTW, on our way home next Saturday, we are picking up a Cavachon puppy somewhere in Georgia and I am super excited. My husband feels that I need a distraction and a puppy would be good for me. I am also facing surgery in the fall on a "significant partial tear in a tendon" in my left foot which will require a cast for six weeks and a slow rehabilitation of 3 - 4 months. In the morning though, I'll be down on the beach.

5 comments:

Dad and Mom said...

Enjoy the vacation and be sure to get plenty of sand between your toes.

yaya said...

Our daughter is recently out of rehab. I think I shared this. We pretend we have a relationship for the sake of her children that I am raising.

It's "un-resolved" anger that is hampering our relationship. I don't obsess about it, because I am not sure I even want a relationship anymore.

I just thought I would throw that out. I am the one that is angry. So I think I would have to be the one to initiate any reconciliation. And I guess I am not willing to do the work. hmmmmmmm

I have learned to detach so well, that I have no feelngs for her at all. Sad, but I think you can relate.

Hope you enjoyed your vacation.

Bristolvol said...

Ron, perfect weather makes for plenty of sand to be enjoyed between my toes!
Yya, I think you are on to something. Yes I agree, unresolved anger is keeping me from reaching out and disappointment with my last effort to do so. I have also detached well for the most part, just sometimes resentment lingers, but I am not willing to do the work either. For the most part, I am too busy living my life. Thanks, guys, for your comments. They really mean a lot.

Bar L. said...

Woo Hoo! Live it up and have fun! I think the puppy sounds wonderful, I don't know what I'd do without my little dog. I hope the beauty of where you are helps some of the anger melt away.

Unknown said...

YaYa? Are you SURE we aren't twins????