I have come across this problem a few times now and it really makes me angry. There is no need to call out other bloggers and make examples out of them. Lord knows, none of us is perfect, but we are trying our best to cope with a very difficult situation on a daily basis.. We are allowing others to take an intimate look at our most sacred worries and fear, hopes and loves. We should not be judged for that by our fellow bloggers.
I appeal to all members of our blogging community to abstain from this devastating practice. It serves no purpose and it defeats the true meaning of this self help support group of parents and loved ones of drug addicted childen.
Thank you.
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I appreciate your support and I will always follow your blog.
I do want to say the person who called me out really was not trying to be mean. She simply stated how she saw my life. She never specifically named me but it was very clear to me that she was referring to me. She saw me as a someone who wrote a blog for attention and comments, That I was a sad enabler in denial with both my son and my husband. It startling that this is how I was coming across by posting about my life. I do sometimes repeat myself but usually it is because I am in a different point in my life so I am repeating a topic from a different perspective. I am guilty of one thing and that is I do like to sensationalize my headings at time, I am very aware I did that...it is a little bit of the creative writer in me to make a post that sounds possibly intriguing. It was not a cry for attention and comments.
I agree with this very much...no need to be "taking each other's inventory" as they say, in a mean spirited way...when we're all doing the best we can.
And Madyson...truly, you have NOTHING to apologize about. I hope you keep blogging...I really do. I'd miss you so very much if you didn't.
I am not sure how long I will be able to stay away. I have already wanted to blog about three different topics. LOL I think I might just blog like a diary privately. The only problem with that is I always want an opinion. LOL
Amen to what you wrote.
And for you madyson....please don't stay away. I understand how you feel, I've been there many times. I sometimes take things said that make me feel embarrassed, defensive or stupid with a grain of salt and let it go. Other times I can see the comment is meant to help me. Occasionally I feel like it was meant to hurt me.
BUT - we are here for each other. We have a strong community of amazing people and you are a big part of "we" so I hope you stay. Its YOUR blog and as a creative writer myself I never once thought your titles were anything but "attention grabbing" which is what a title should be.
Madyson, whether it was you or someone else, it is just wrong to be critical of others in such a patronizing manner. She may not have meant it in a mean way, but I took offense to it. If she has a certain opinion of someone, she can keep it to herself. No need to explain why she does not leave comments on certain blogs. I strongly believe that even if our kids are well on the road to recovery, they can relapse at any time, so there is no room for arrogance. We are here to help each other without judging. I used to go to an Alanon meeting a few years ago and the majority of the people attending looked down on me because I just sat there and cried most of the time. That is why I am so sentitive when it comes to judging. I quit going to the meeting after a few times.
I am hoping that you won't quit writing. I like to read your posts and appreciate you sharing your worries and concerns with all of us. I know I don't write a lot, but that is because I have not had contact with my girl in three years and I don't have much to say about living life with an addict, however I am still very much hurt on the inside and very sympathetic to each and every one in this community.
Thanks for posting this! This is a place where we should be able to express how we feel at that moment and not be judged.
None of us is perfect. We make mistakes. I think that all we can do is share our experience, strength and hope.
Good point! ... we don't all agree w eachother all the time.. but we learn from each other.
I have made tons of mistakes and have pleasantly experienced a period of sobriety ( my son's ) that has lasted over 2 years
peace and strength...
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